The 5 Languages of Love
How do you and your spouse get along? Do you speaking the same language? Love is a wonderful thing, but it can also sometimes be a very confusing one, as well. People come in all shapes and sizes, and this is also true of the choices they make when it comes to choosing the way they personally express their love. More often than not, the donor and the recipient of love, express their feelings in very different ways. This can lead to miscommunication, arguments and even divorce.
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Dr. Gary Chapman: Was recommended to me by a friend to read before I got married. I assumed it would be religious in tone and perhaps lacking in relevance to the relationships of the modern world. I am very happy to report that I was sorely mistaken! This is one of those books that I recommend everyone in the world read. It is an unbiased, simple explanation of that which so often can go wrong in relationships. It is not a book about men against women. This book is about the way people give and receive love.
Dr. Gary Chapman determines there are five basic languages of love and then guides partners toward a better knowledge of their unique languages of love. The 5 Love Languages teaches us to speak and understand the language of our love partner and in just a short while you’ll be able to effectively love and really feel loved in return. Expert communication is well within your reach! The basic concept here is that there are 5 languages of love, obviously, and if your language of love is different than that of your partner, then you may not be feeling very loved.
The 5 languages of love are:
- “Words of affirmation”
- “Quality time”
- “Receiving gifts”
- “Acts of service”
- “Physical Touch”
I am sure we all respond to all of them in some way, but we all have a language we prefer. There is a test in the back that can help you define yours very quickly. As I read the book, I figured out what mine was, the quiz pinpointed exactly what it was and then helped me to prioritize and organize mine by level of importance, so it was a real help, even better than I think I could have done by my own account.
This tome will help you in every one of your current relationships (not just romantic) and the relationships in your future. It really points out how such relationships can crumble when the honeymoon period has passed, although there is still love between you. It will help you understand how to show your love for another person in such a way that they will be more receptive.
There are many examples in the book I could share, but I want you to read it! So go out and look for it in the library or the bookstore when you get a chance.